Web filtering is more powerful on iOS, while monitoring texts and calls works on only Android.
Read our full Qustodio review. Once the most powerful parental-control app for iPhones, OurPact was hobbled by an Apple rule change in late that nixed the service's geofencing, location tracking and time allowances on iOS. At its peak, OurPact was the only parental-control app we tested that could manage or block any iOS app.
It can still do so for Android devices. OurPact also gets kids involved in managing the daily allowance of screen time that you give them, and it does a good job of scheduling. Yet, its website filtering simply blocks porn, and it can't monitor calls or texts at all, even on Android.
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However, you can block messaging apps, and OurPact remains a joy to use. Read our full OurPact review. Screen Time does an excellent job of managing and scheduling kids' device access. Unfortunately, this app doesn't do a whole lot else on iOS devices. And it has baffling upcharges for location tracking and web filters, both of which come standard with other parental-control apps.
You get both features in the day premium trial. We liked how this service doles out additional screen time for chores or good deeds. But you can't block apps on iOS, and there's no call or text monitoring at all, although geofencing and location history were recently added. Read our full Screen Time review. ESET Parental Control for Android sticks to one platform, but it doesn't shine even there, lacking text-message- and call-monitoring features. The free app management and time management do work well, as do the paid location tracking and geofencing.
MMGuardian has nearly every parental-control feature you might want, especially on Android, but the user interfaces are outdated and frustrating. Both the iOS and Android smartphone apps offer location tracking and excellent web filtering, and have recently added an artificial-intelligence component to spot nudity in saved images. App management is strong on Android but primitive on iOS. On Android, the parent can read every text and block any number. Time management and screen-time scheduling are also Android-only.
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Evaluation Criteria We focused on apps that emphasize proactively setting up filters and limits before your child uses the phone rather than merely tracking activities after the fact. We took the following criteria into account:. We tested each app on every platform it supported twice, from installation to testing to uninstall. We typically monitored activity from the MacBook Pro, but if apps offered control from a smartphone app, we tested those features as well. Calls and texts for monitoring purposes were made from a secondary Android device.
Android parental-control apps remain more robust than their iOS counterparts in most cases, especially with regard to call and text monitoring. But new additions to iOS have closed the gap somewhat. We will note areas in which there are discrepancies in the functionality offered on each platform, but we are not providing distinct ratings and reviews for the iOS versus the Android version of each app.
Parental-control apps for mobile devices work best when they're part of a comprehensive approach to teaching your kids about behaving responsibly online. For that reason, we avoided testing apps that can run in stealth mode on a child's phone. There are many products that tout this capability, but some people use such services to spy not on their children, but on their spouses or on other adults, which is illegal in most U.
In addition, we did not consider apps that offered the ability to record a child's phone conversations. However, unless you intend to break the rules they specified in the agreement it all sounds fair and reasonable. As a parent of a 14 year old I also raised two daughters who are now adults , I would think twice about giving an internet connected device to a son or daughter who objected to any of those terms. If you are concerned about any of the terms, ask your parents respectfully if they can take time to discuss and explain their intent to you, but stay calm so they are willing to listen to your views as well Be thankful they care and are looking out for you!
I disagree. As a high schooler, we need way more than 1 hour of internet time. For me tv control was never a huge problem because I only watch tv on weekends but I think the parents need to have a little more understanding and insight on how she feels. I recently found out that my dad is monitoring my computer. He was telling me to do my homework, and while I was logging in to studentvue, I tried to explain to him that I didn't have any homework. It felt like a personal attack on me and my interests.
This person did god knows what to my computer, and didn't even bother telling me?!?? He didn't even tell me that he was basically putting a camera in my diary!! Oh, but it's fine. I mean Honestly, whatever they find next, be it my cousin talking to me about her self-harming friends in Maine or my coming-out practice, they have brought it upon themselves. All I want to do at this point is put a camera on them.
My parents recently put time restrictions on all my apps, they have access to all my social media and they read my texts. Honestly its terrible. I figured out how to take the restrictions off but I got caught and I'm grounded for awhile. When you don't give your kids freedom most likely they're gonna go behind your back and do something.
I don't even feel comfortable texting, snapping or DMing my friends because I know my parents will read it. I don't say bad things, I don't send nudes but my parents knowing about my crush or the girl drama makes me very uncomfortable. I think you should give your children talks about these things and check it in the beginning but unless you want your kids to rebel and sneak things don't be a helicopter parent like mine.
I find parental controls frustrating and annoying.
It really feels like your parents don't trust you to be responsible. Plus, a lot of people keep personal information that they don't want to be seen on their phones. Personally, I have a location tracking and a text, phone, and web monitoring app on my phone, as well as plenty of monitoring on my computer. They really feel intrusive and it feels like my parents won't trust me.
Plus, most kids these days know a lot about tech. They could easily disable these. Sometimes, it's a trial and error, too. When I don't want my location tracked, I can get around that, easy as pie. At first, I turned my location permissions off, but I figured out it sends my parents a notification. So I go into settings, and force stop the app. It just keeps my last logged location as my current location.
It's perfect for sneaking out without a loud notification going off. As for the monitoring apps, my mom uses the same password on it as every other account she has - she even told me to help set it up. If I want to get around barriers, boom. Log in to the admin account, turn them off.
The more restrictions you have on your child, the more they'll want to rebel. Take my own example, I'm not allowed to go anywhere without holding my parents' hand AND having the locator on me. That's the reason I sneak out. There's not anything to do in my neighborhood, just walk in the middle of the street feeling like a free man. Restrictions are useless in the modern day, and all they do is make other kids feel sorry for your kid because they can't do anything.
For me, it also generates a lot of jealousy, seeing my peers and even younger people being able to do whatever they want, and it saddens you and it seems like your parents really don't care about you. I feel like there would be a lot more trust between my parents and I if they would stop trying to intrude on me and instead let me have a productive conversation with them.
Teens will keep secrets from their parents, and the more you try to stop it the worse it gets. It's like your parents reading your diary when you were a child. It's absolutely devastating for the kids, and you discover a lot of things you wish you hadn't known; plus, there's a loss of trust from both parties So really, it's a lose-lose-lose. You shouldn't keep a constant eye on your children without a reason, or they'll just start doing things behind your back. If your teen wants to do something, they'll find a way. Of course, I'm not here to rule over your parenting, just giving you insight from a teen.
I feel like ever since my parents put restrictions on me, I've acted out more and more. When I get a little morsel of freedom, I tend to feel happier, be more focused, and behave way better. Not only that, my mood and behavior improves so much. It's not because I'm doing it on purpose. That's just how being a teen works. Having parental controls on my phone myself, I find it frustrating.
I really feel like my mom doesn't trust me to do simple things like time management, managing what websites to be on, how to be safe on the internet, and etc. I know there are some times that I can go a bit overboard on my phone, but most of the time I have it managed. Though my parents don't check up on my phone, they do have a paranoia with the internet so I do get little time on other devices such as a computer.
My grades have still been the same average that they normally are, even with the app. I feel like it depends how responsible, mature, and old your kids are to have an app on their phone that controls it. If they're mature, have good grades, know how to manage time, and know how to still do other things off of their phone, then in my opinion there really is no need for an app. I do feel frustrated that my parents don't trust me or I think they don't , that I have become a little more resentful of their choices.
The app says if done correctly it might build trust between the child and parent, but for me so far, that has been a complete lie. I honestly do not want to have it, I feel like my choices are being controlled, I'm scared to get on my phone in case I get in trouble, I feel distrusted, and nothing has mended between my parents and I.
Think carefully before you but a restricting app on your child's phone. Is it really the best for them and your relationship with them? Sometimes my dad will check my phone and i'm percent okay with that - parents should check their children's phone anyway but it's the silly restricted stuff that i hate. Use that. If your kid is super mature, good grades, good friends - do they need the controls? Maybe your kid might bend the truth and deceive you but its your job to build the best relationship with them so they wont feel barred to tell you the truth and so they can come to you for anything.
To conclude, i didnt make this so i could stop children from getting parental controls and the protection they need but i'm just trying to give parents out there an eye opener from an actual 13 year old. I can look into my finance, phone without touching it. He has a finger print lock on it. And as a messnger, I need to see who he his talk with.
And a Facebook page too. How can I block all apps on my kids phone like facebook and google youtube. Remember they have an opinion too. Also google is a basic need that they would definitely need for school so I wouldn't advise you to block that. I doubt anyone uses Facebook anymore so I don't really think they would care if you blocked that. YouTube they will probably use for school too, but make an agreement and check in on them about it.
On weekends, we can watch tv but in limited amount. Your child will probably roll their eyes at first but they will come around because, as hard as it is for parents to believe, you're child genuinely loves you and wants to spend time with you. A lot of kids seek connections with others on their phones or online because they don't feel that connection with their parents. Make sure to give them a few months to adjust, while checking in. If that doesn't work then it would make sense to moniter their activity, not block, because not using them is a choice they need to make on their own.
You making that decision for your child will impact them worse. Tell them you're going to start tracking their activity but also let them have the ability to track you so it's a mutual relationship of trust. They will stop using those apps during the week and maybe it might bring you together in the long run. There should be something in the settings for Facebook. However, depending on the type of phone you're using, you might not be able to get rid of Google, and you can get to YouTube through Google.
These things are not inherently bad, however. We check our teens phone, because teenagers have a habit of bending the truth. Supposed to be at the park, but is actually on the other side of the town. Supposed to be at baseball, but that ended two hours ago and he went somewhere else without asking. We use the iphone's restrictions and find-my-phone. As one adamant boy has repeatedly pointed out, you can work around that.
But if any time the phone cannot be found, the phone or the PS4 is revoked. Very little is worth losing the iphone or PS4. So you don't have to 'cover every possible loophole'. The iphone is pretty solid. It can't be bypassed very easily, and if they manage to factory reset it, they meet the iphone lock.
Then you get set the phone up again the exact same way. I don't understand how some parents get "locked out" of their childs phone. Should that occur, we'd take it and hand back the LG cosmos. Nobody wants that.
If you're child is sneaking out and acting inappropriately then I completely understand why you added the restrictions. I'm glad you guys chose to implement these restrictions for a good, genuine reason. I have a mixed opinion about the situation. I have a friend that gets her phone monitored. Every single text message, every single app, game; every single thing she does. Including Snapchat, she has to save everything she sends to people until her mom checks it. As a child ages, monitoring should become less often and monitoring less things your child does.
Not only does she question the horse game, she made me get on the game and made sure it was child friendly. She questioned why I sent pictures to my friends when she clearly knows them , and I felt so sick. I was scared about what to text to my friends because I was worried my mom would completely start worrying and question me everything. My dad agrees with me having privacy on my phone but my mom will find a way to check my phone if she is actually going to start checking.
Whenever I didnt want her to check it, she thought I was doing something inappropriate. Sometimes privacy is healthy to gain independence and learn how to cope with things yourself. Seems over-exaggerated, right? So recently I had been doing some not so good things on my phone.
I want doing anything really bad like sending nudes but I had said some questionable things. One day out of nowhere my parents just took my phone. They like took it out of my hands. I was grounded for 2 weeks and lost my phone for 3. I felt my privacy was violated but I understand that they were trying to keep me safe but they did it very hostile and suddenly. It was horrible. My friends got in trouble. It ruined my life.
I lost friends. To make things worse, My parents became helicopter parents. They put secret monitoring apps on my phone. My uncles, cousins, family friends, everyone knew. I have deep resentment for my parents and I fear when they call me upstairs now if fear I will be harshly punished even if I have nothing to hide. I realize it feels like the end of the world sometimes. Imagine having children of your own and the issues they may encounter out there, or being sued because your child did something they were not supposed to do.
It is a dangerous world we live in and pressure from the external world can take you places you may not realize until it is too late. You sound like a good person and I believe they really care about you and love you too much to let someone take advantage of you.
Don't be in such a rush to grow up, take your time, enjoy your life, time flies and before you know you have responsibilities that are a load to handle like your parents. The reason parents talk to other parents about locking you down is because they know what is on the other side, someone trying to take your child physically or emotionally.
I remember I thought I was going to do things differently when I got out, after being attacked, I realized my first mistake was thinking it wouldn't happen to me. You are blessed to have someone who cares that much about YOU. Answer: You don't. I don't care if my parents monitor my phone. I don't really do anything worrisome online. But what really irks me is when they take the device at random intervals for "my safety". The constant fear that I will be suddenly stopped and forced to readjust my situation is taking a bigger toll on my day-to-day mood than anything else.
I do not understand why parents are monitoring there kids phones.
Even though I am currently residing with my mom at this time, i do feel that a few boundary rules should be present. From the time I received my first cell-phone, she has always complained that I spend too much time on my phone. I could understand her point of view when she was paying for the phone. Now that I am 19 years old, I think that it is just plain ridiculous. I recently made the mistake of creating a Facebook account and then relaying this information to a cousin of mine.
When i asked her to keep this information to herself, she said that it was my place to tell my mom, not hers. However, she called my mom and told her anyway. Which resulted in my only being allowed to use my cell-phone at school, until we discussed the situation with my father. Since i am paying the phone bill, I feel that this is completely intrusive and hurtful. Although he may be some-what disappointed, I don't mind talking with m dad about such things.
What does bother me is when she talks to him first and gives her side of the story, making me look like the bad person. I began to lose trust in my mother at a very young age. She would say that she was going to do things with me, and then come up with an excuse when it didn't happen. Also, she would promise that i would be spanked for something I did wrong, but sometimes didn't follow through. Even now, I don't trust her much at all. She is constantly saying what i should do, and how I should do it. Even helping her with things that she should know how to do for herself.
But if they are older and you suspect that something bad is taking place, explain to them why you want to monitor their devices. Don't just do it because you are the parent and "It's your responsibility". Children are a lot smarter these days than you may think. This is why i hide some things from my mom to this day, because i know that she is prone to over-reacting and telling my business to her friends, or whoever she deems necessary. Don't correct your child ren for something and then boast to your friends about what you did.
This is not a constant competition of who is the best parent, or how big and bad parents may think that they are. You have to be patient and, most of all, develop a trust between you and your child.
Doing this will prevent the need for your children to want to hide things from you. If a child feels they need to hide something from you, ask yourself, where did I go wrong. Since we are all human, it is possible. My mom checks my phone and my laptop for no reason sometimes she does it without telling me.
She looks through texts and phone calls and contacts just to find something to be mad about. Its pretty obvious she doesn't trust me on my stuff and I know she knows her parenting is bad so she doesn't trust me. Guess what there are always ways to get around it She even listens at my door a few days ago I saw her through the crack of me door listening..
My parentts do not bother me with this garbage. I can bypass any spyware. Plz TT. When I was 11, I wanted to check my email in a public place. I didn't have a phone, so I asked my mom if I could use hers. My mom, sensing an opportunity, let me log in and asked me to sign in with my school email too. But soon, I started noticing responses to emails I'd been sent that were from my account, but I didn't send them.
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Around that time, my mom also started reading my actual mail. I'd find opened envolopes on the kitchen table that were adressed to me. There was nothing suspicious about the emails and the mail my mom read. When I confronted her about it, my mom said she had a right to read my mail. When I set up an Instagram account about a month ago, my mom made me accept her follow request. Not only that, she started following everyone I follow so she can see what I see on Instagram.
I decided to hide my Instagram Story from her so that I'd be comfortable saying what I wanted. I have a private account, and I only accept people I know, my mom is the only person who can see my account, who I don't want to. After another failed attempt at convincing my mom to not read my emails, I started using a secret email to talk to my friends.
My parents knew I had the email, but I told them I'd set it up so I can watch Hetalia on youtube, which is age restricted. They were okay with that, but they don't know I use that account to email people, so they don't moniter it. When I asked my mom why she still feels the need to moniter my email, she said it was so she could make sure I wasn't being sent anything inappropreate. At 14, I think that's unnessascary. I get the online safety talk every year at school for the past 9 years, and I know to delete an email if it has anything inappropriate. In the 3 years I've had my email, I never had to deal with anything like that.
Parents, don't spy on your kids without good reason, everyone deserves privacy, and if you break your kid's trust, they might start going behind your back, like I did. You make a great point that as kids, we get the online safety talk every year at school, and, at least in my school, we do a good amount of activities involving online safety. So it's dumb for parents to think that we don't know that the internet can be dangerous. Sounds like your Mom cares about you and that you have learned from her about right and wrong so you make pretty good decisions.
You are blessed to have someone that loves you. One day, everything you do will come back good or bad to you with your life, family, friends, and pets. Right now it is hard to see that she just cares about you. I think that a contract that both the parents and child signs as to what to expect when using a mobile phone that the parents are paying for is not too much to ask. As for privacy -- it should be agreed upon before the start of the contract.
I will not deceive my kid but expect that they meet us on mutually agreed-upon terms. Parents will always violate that contract. Children will too. You know why? Because it IS too much to ask for. It's almost like y'all are having kids just to spy on us. Here's the truth: your child will eventually find a way to watch porn, or whatever you're trying to stop them from watching. It happens sooner or later, and it won't scar them seeing to adults engaging in sexual intercourse. It'll scar them if they see YOU engaging in sexual intercourse with your partner.
If you think it's OK for a 13 year old to watch adults engaging in sexual intercourse, wait till you have kids. Hope you have grown up a little since this posting last year Some way, there phone is their privacy. As your children grow older, they begin to become more independent and privacy becomes a bigger issue where boundaries and lines start to become clearer. If you have reason to suspect, you should still let them know but go in a little deeper. I'm so glad a parent has these thoughts.
Maybe people will start listening. Just stop thinking you can do whatever you want and not get caught. Teens know much more than you think, also, the icloud based apps do not actually work for the most part and the apps that are installed locally usually require a jailbreak, jailbreaking is a very bad idea because it opens your phone to viruses and could potentially brick the phone. Apple will actually refuse service if they find out your phone is jailbroken. Even if you proceed to do this, we will be able to tell. Also, rooting depending on the manufacturer may void your warranty, while the new samsung phones are almost impossible to root, and reflashing the stock ROM is very difficult for someone who does not know what they are doing most parents.
Just accept it, teens will always find ways to outsmart you parents. Stop trying to be sneaky and be upfront about your intentions if you even think spying is a good idea to begin with. If you have a reason to "monitor", please tell your kids why you are doing so. If your kids are trustworthy and responsible, there is no reason to do this, unless you either didn't or did a really bad job at giving your kid the cyber safety talk.
What you do comes back to you, good or bad. Your parents know what is out there, that is why they try so they are not blamed later because they didn't pay attention or keep the reigns close or to keep from being sued because of some learning mistake teens make.
It is funny how most people don't see that until they are grown and concerned for their own kids and become their parents because they understand what is important now. You've seen it, every lie comes out, and what do you get from it - 10 fold. By the way, my Daddy just passed away in October , he told me you don't know until you know you can't pick up the phone and call your Mom or Dad, because his Mother was already gone.
I wish I could eat a sandwich with him, not a fancy meal. Have him tell me what to do, monitor me, etc. What I know now is that they care about you enough to be trouble because they have seen what is out there waiting for you. Please somebody kill me. My parents will not stop and my life sucks pretty bad right now. I am having to learn to hack so that I can keep some of my things on my phone private from my mom.
I am constantly having to change my passcode for everything. I have put a lock on my history and social medias. Kids need to evolve and learn their parents. I am the master of Duping my parents and I know what they will do in every scenario. My parents lack in consistency and do not enforce often. When they do search me it is usually because they're mad.
I am working on a fingerprint or voice thing that I can put on my phone. This makes it so that if you leave your phone with your parents or home alone, you're invincible. What they do the other times is an attempt to force you to give them access threatening your sports, passions, hobbies, and even friends. You, kids, need to show that you have nothing to lose. The TV, your phone, and your video games is their best weapon.
They hold it over you every time as they have complete control over it. Never argue or show emotion because it simply shows your parents how much you care about those things. Just shrug and accept it. It is up to you if you want to be good to have those things all the time or punish your parents by purposely being bad and difficult in situations of conflict. Im currently on the second option. So you choose what to do and dont be afraid to stand up to your parents or make a plan to lock your privacy.
All you kids need to evolve and protect yourselves from the old people. When my parents see that I enjoy something, they take it away when they feel I've stepped out of line. It's gotten to the point where I had a panic attack once when my parents took away my 3ds without telling me why or even giving me a good reason. I don't feel safe unless all of the stuff I love is in my room, where I know where it is. My parents are used to taking away my tablet and 3ds, so whenever they see them even if I did nothing wrong they will take it away.
They don't even tell me when I'll get it back. My tablet was revoked over 3 years ago, and I have yet to receive it back. My parents insist they don't have it, but I know they took it. I knew it. I feel like sometimes with parents they feel they have all the authority, "my house, my rules" stuff and they can use that to control their kid.
My parents have flourished in that skill. The thing is this is what I call the take away game. Anything and everything you lover is a bargaining chip. You can beT this by showing unstressed in something you parents think you like and it becomes useless to take it away. One thing is after they take away these chips they have nothing else so you got nothing to lose. Anything and everything you love can be used against you.
You just have to pretend to stop loving it. I get exactly how you feel. It middle school, I couldn't sleep at all because I was terrified that my parents installed a secret camera in my room. Now I sleep, not because I'm no longer afraid but because I need to. I almost passed out because of lack of sleep and now I can only sleep under a super thick comforter so that if they have a camera, they won't be able to see me. It's not because I'm doing anything wrong. It's because I feel violated and freaked out.
My home feels more like a prison and by parents are the guards. Brilliant, I agree. I am 13 years old and I have had to research how to keep my privacy safe. To be honest- i don't think people should monitor their teens phones. Would you want someone constantly checking your conversations and internet history? Let them grow up themselves. To parents: Please think over why you might want to monitor your child's device.
I understand that some parents believe that because they paid for the phone, they have the right to read their child's text messages, look through their phone call records, social media accounts, and even read their search history. This happened to me last summer. I am male and currently 14, soon to turn They began to look through everything on my laptop computer, my phone, and my iPad.
This took place over a bit under a week. After this finished, and I got my devices back, I noticed a feeling that I kept having. A sense of fear kept coming to me. I was always suspicious that my parents had placed some type of spyware or something to read incoming and out coming messages from my devices. When I was on my computer and an icon briefly popped up on my toolbar only to then disappear I realize now that this is normal , I thought that is was some type of software they had installed to monitor my usage.
It got to the point where I began to think that there were cameras put up in our house to spy on me. I thought that the wifi would send my internet searches to them, and that they would read them. I thought every electronic device I "owned" was being monitored by my parents. I did not trust them.
I found out that what I had developed is paranoia, and while I have learned to suppress it to a large extent, it put me way behind in socializing than I was before they searched my devices. I was well liked and had many friends, but after my parents searched my electronics, I lack basic confidence and communication skills to mantain many relationships.
Although it is getting better, I can only imagine what my social life would be if the electronic search simply didn't happen. So again, parents, please reconsider you decision and approach your child instead of surprising them. I am the adult, I pay for the cel phone and I will check it to ensure that their conduct is appropriate, no perverts are grooming and their "friends" are self governing themselves as well. Don't feed into this "kids privacy" crap the world feeds you!! Through monitoring my kids phones I have observed the following: unsolicited pictures of sexual body part sent to my children, grooming from "older kids", two voice messages from a 45 year old man in California wanting to talk to my daughter because he was "scared" of thunder, unsolicited pictures of drugs other kids were selling and there were some inappropriate things both my kids have been caught sending or viewing cause they are not perfect These are young impressionable children and there are many ways their innocence can be taken.
Phones also keep your child from face to face conversations, thinking before they react, diminishes their time to do other more important things, consumes their life, provides a false reality since everything posted is usually shallow and superficial. Once trust has been developed you can back off from checking all the time to monthly, spot checks. They are the worst thing you can purchase for your child. Respectfully, I think that kids should have a fair amount of privacy until they do something that causes you to give them less privacy. If you didn't monitor their usage so much, they might have come to ask your advice when they received those inappropriate messages.
Controlling their internet so much may have led them to not trust you. First of all, you might the reason the 'drama' started. Monitoring your childs phone is just going to make them want to hide things from you. Your children didnt even contribute to anything you wrote. This isnt even their fault, its the fault of others and you're pushing the consequences onto them. They have no space to grow or learn, because you're controlling them so much. Watch as they learn to delete, hide and lock all the apps and content you monitor. Watch them find a way to bypass your control.
Maybe you'll learn how to raise your kids properly. First off, with all due respect, if your kids are exposed to this and didn't talk about it to you, it may be because they didn't trust you. That self-righteous attitude destroys your child's ability to trust you or believe you have their best interests at heart, instead making them act out even more. A lot of the examples you gave were sent by others and I think you just trust in your child's ability to not participate in them.
I think there's such a taboo around inappropriate content and if what they are sending really freaks you out, you should talk to them instead of further cracking down on them. For you, phones may seem superficial, but for them, it is their world. It is how they communicate with friends, meet new people, do work, etc. While social media may be a false reality which is why I deleted all of mine , there are places online where children can really express themselves, like this site and by writing off the entire internet with over 7 billion users as superficial and useless, you cut out a huge part of teen culture and their lives.
It's like if your parents told you that face-to-face conversations are superficial because no one would really tell you how they feel anyways, so you should just stop having conversations with people. My mom spends all of her time on Facebook and my dad is always on his laptop; I don't call that responsible. If you want, you can install malware protectors and stuff but just take a step back and ask yourself if you will ever be able to "trust" your child. Set guidelines of what you think complete responsibility is and see if those are even achievable.
Put yourselves in their shoes and think about more than just your opinion. Perhaps this 'Drama' was because you monitored their phones so closely in the first place? I'm 11 and don't have a phone yet, but I own an iPad and my parents have never looked through what I do. I recommend only looking through their phone if they seem to be doing something suspicious. Would you like it if you were a kid and your parents gave you no privacy? Don't try to secretly monitor your kid, most teens and preteens are a tad more intelligent than they seem to be.
I think if a parent is a good parent then they should have already shown their child how to behave responsibly, how to know dangers or not, and how to not bully people or stand up to one. If you do not trust your children then that is on YOU, not them. You clearly raised them incorrectly then.
I did have some technology very early my parents were very big on new tech. I was raised by people two generations my senior, yet I had total privacy. No searching in my room no snooping in my business, no reading my notebooks with all my secrets in. And certainly I made a few errors as a teen. However, I survived, and got good grades and have an IQ of , and never had a teen pregnancy or any issues because my parents raised my correctly!
I could defend myself as well as sense dangers. You parents MUST trust your children. Teens must have freedom, and I mean a lot of it. They HAVE to learn who they are, and who they are is not just some extension of you and a bunch of rules, they learn by making mistakes. They learn by being taught by you.
Kids these days will never develop into proper adjusted people if parents do not start butting out again like mine did exactly enough. Also, if a teenager chooses to look at sexual content that is a natural thing. All humans are curious and want to see what sex is. No ne can tell me they did not also do so back then.
Why is it that I seem to be the only adult on here with any sense of privacy and trust, who agrees completely with these teenagers? I was raised with tons of freedom, and I was just fine. I am 41 and I still feel like I am20 inside because I had the freedom to learn exactly who I am.
Kids are not stupid, they know right from wrong! Yes I agree with you. Kids should have their own privacy about crushes and their personal life. Unfortunately that will not happen to me. My mom will check my texts and my history and put so many restriction on it. Our son is getting his first phone at almost 13 and we will monitor its use.
If he'd like a diary, fine, I'm happy to get him one and I won't touch it, because that diary isn't a tool to communicate with the outside world and vice versa. It's also a far cry from creating a direct line into your home for people with less than good intentions for your child. How is your son ever going to learn to deal with problems by himself if you keep stepping in? In the end, you're going to start becoming the problem. If it was anyone but you, that would be classified as stalking and would definitely be one of the signs of an abusive relationship.
Your son may end up thinking thats okay if you give him no privacy whatsoever. Have a talk with him, and explain internet safety. I know the risks of being online which is why I'm responsible online. Give him the benefit of doubt. Let him know it's okay to trust you about his feelings and offer to help. If it's just porn I advise that you lecture him and move on. He's going to watch inappropriate content at some point no matter what you do and you need to let him make that choice on his own.
In fact I would encourage. In short, trust your son. If there is mutual trust, your relationship will be a lot better and he is actually less likely to act out. Good luck! Good parenting!! Don't ever let society push you into raising your child against your better judgement! I have posted some information on what took place with my two children and what I did. He Kids, as long as your parents are paying for your food, clothing, schooling AND phone You Don't Have Any Privacy.
There are seriously sick predators out there. There are kids brutally bullying other kids. Even kids encouraging kids to commit suicide! Our job is to Keep You Safe. Try showing a little gratitude for what you have and a little respect for your parents. Your reputation is their reputation. In a few years, as you prepare your college applications, and after that your employment applications, you'll wonder why you ever posted such stupid stuff anyway!
What goes around, comes around. Have a great day! I'm sorry, but with utmost respect, that is the most ridiculous and self-righteous things I've ever heard. I have been brutally bullied and my parent's controls did absolutely nothing to stop it.
In fact, being able to go online and talk on sites like this and speak about how I really felt helped. My parents actually made my depression and suicidal thoughts way worse and I resent them so much. Privacy is such a huge part of growing up. You can't just make a decision for your child and expect them to learn from it. Instead, talk to them.
For example, if you're checking their social media posts, just ask to follow them. Don't force them to accept your follow request. Just say you want to know them better and ask if they will follow you back too. Make it a family bonding thing, tag eachother in posts, and let everyone know how much you guys love eachother.
After all, that will boost that "reputation" you're so worried about. By the way, if anyone is encouraging your child to commit suicide, instead of restricting your child and making it all your child's fault, talk about how to get past bullying and how to deal with it. Let your child know they are loved and understood and really listen to them. You are the people they look to the most in their lives and they need your acceptance. Block the bullies and report them for abuse. Have a talk with your kid.
Just whatever you do, don't let it be your child's fault, they are the victims. You'll only make it worse. You may pay for the phone It voids the warranty. Well, since you pay for it, that means you're paying for a new phone if you brick your kid's phone while jailbreaking it, apple will not help you at all, they will refuse you service.